Did you know that the frontal lobe of the brain is responsible for concentration and creativity? And when we meditate the pre-frontal lobe is activated? It's true. It's like plugging in your electric car for a recharge---when you meditate, you are recharging the battery of your brain power!
The amazing thing is that if you can manage to meditate just a little bit every day, your concentrate is greatly improved for other tasks. Not only that, with improved focus it's easier to accomplish more in less time. Your brain is literally able to process information more efficiently. Suddenly, you can accomplish in one minute what used to take ten minutes. The hardest part, though, is finding that extra 15 minutes in your day to meditate. Below are a few tips followed by a simple practice.
Get up 15 minutes earlier.
Take a walk at lunch and find a quiet place to sit alone.
Go to bed 15 minutes later.
Ask a friend, parent, or other family member to help with the kids or other duties so you can have 15 minutes.
Two things to help you get started and stick with it:
Stick with the same time every day (commit to 2-3 weeks).
Create a routine that you can easily repeat. Having a set routine helps because you don't have to think about what to do. You just show up and practice the same as you did the time before (hopefully within the past 24 hours).
Simple 15-minute routine:
Walk in place for a minute or so. This helps get your blood moving and reenergizes you so you don't feel sleepy when you sit.
Upon sitting:
Find a comfortable seated position. Take several deep cleansing breaths. Behind closed eyes bring your attention to your forehead. Don't cross your eyes, but just hold your attention here. Imagine with every breath the front part of your brain is being activated, turned on. Hold your gaze in this area (behind closed eyes) throughout the practice. At first it may seem hard, but over time your eyes will just settle in to focus here. Just relax your eyes, your gaze, looking out and "through" the middle of your forehead, just at the point between the eyebrows. Imagine a flashlight showing you the way. Look up and ahead, through, this point. This practice helps to awaken the pre-frontal lobe (where you gain focus and creativity).
Pranayama: Practice even count breathing. Do 3 - 5 rounds of "even count" breathing. Inhale to a count of 8, retain breath to a count of 8; exhale to a count of 8. The more you do this you can let go of actually counting; the process will just become intuitive. You can adjust the count, less or more, as you like.
Watching the breath: After the even count breathing, resume natural breathing for several breaths. Then begin to simply "watch the breath" as you inhale and exhale. Don't control the breath, just let it come on its own accord. After about 2 minutes add a mantra: Silently affirm, "I am" on the inhale and then "Peace" on the exhale. Instead of "watching the breath" transition to "feeling" the breath ...feel the essence of peace. If your mind wanders, come back to watching the breath and your mantra, "I am Peace." Practice for five minutes and then transition from watching to just being, feeling, peace, stillness.
Sit in the stillness. As you sit quietly, feel the energy of peace washing over you. Gently, imagine the warmth of peace, as if being showered by a gently flowing tropical waterfall. Feel the peace wash over your face, your heart, your entire body. Like a sponge, absorb this feeling. Know it as peace. Sit in this pool of peace. Bask in the peace washing over you. Practice for five minutes.
When you're ready, deepen your breath, to help become more aware of the body as you complete your practice. Come out of the silence by wiggling your toes, fingers, and a few deep breaths.
End by humming or chanting three oms: Bring your hands in prayer position at your heart center. Give thanks for this gift of peace. Now, briskly rub your hands together, feeling the heat, the energy in your palms. Feel the connection in your heart with your hands. Open your hands and face them forward as you chant om three times. Imagine energy radiating from your heart center, through your arms, into your hands, out into your fingertips. Feel the vibration reaching out to others. Share your gift of peace as you go about your day.
Take a challenge: Try it for a full week! See if you notice any "aha" moments, gain clarity or get things done more easily. Notice if you feel calmer. Just experiment. Adopting the above practice (even just a few minutes) before going into a stressful situation (meetings, speaking, etc) helps you to remain calm, collected, focused!
Monday, December 12, 2011
Thursday, December 1, 2011
A Year in Review
This month, December 2011, is the one-year mark since leaving my 23-year career in engineering. Sometimes I can't believe I really did it—left my job—but when I look at the year in review, I am pleased to see I have used my time well. I've struck a balance that keeps me healthy, happy, and grounded.
Leaving behind my old job allowed my life to expand, grow, blossom. It has allowed time to discover new things about myself and say Yes! to an abundance of opportunities. My focus has been on expanding my healing practice, writing, continuing education, and playing with my grandsons as much as possible!
Since there's been so much growth for Seattle Energy Medicine in 2011, I thought it might be a good time to provide an outline of what's new and upcoming for 2012.
Private Sessions: I gave up my private healing space but sublet in two lovely locations.
Leaving behind my old job allowed my life to expand, grow, blossom. It has allowed time to discover new things about myself and say Yes! to an abundance of opportunities. My focus has been on expanding my healing practice, writing, continuing education, and playing with my grandsons as much as possible!
Since there's been so much growth for Seattle Energy Medicine in 2011, I thought it might be a good time to provide an outline of what's new and upcoming for 2012.
Private Sessions: I gave up my private healing space but sublet in two lovely locations.
· Tuesdays at The Pujari Center: The new clinic opened in July, 2011 and SEM has lots of great things planned for 2012! Special deals and additional services coming! Go here for more info on my services as well as the other practitioners: http://www.pujaricenter.com/practitioners
· Fridays at East West Bookshop: I have been offering private sessions for almost two years in one of the EWB beautiful private treatment rooms. Look for special offers, including free mini-sessions in 2012! Go here for more info on my services as well as the other practitioners: http://www.eastwestbookshop.com/healers/
· By phone: many options and times available. Email or phone for scheduling.
· On site: traveling to the client's location is always an option. Contact me to discuss.
Classes & Lecturing:
· Swedish Medical Center: Meditation classes will continue at Swedish Medical Center Issaquah in 2012. For more information and to register go to: http://www.theshopsatswedish.org/flex-space
· The Pujari Center will be offering a variety of classes so check the calendar often. I will be teaching both one-on-one as well as group meditation classes and workshops on the chakras, developing intuition, and "energetic" parenting.
· Speaking: "Brown Bag" classes within the business community are becoming more popular as many companies invite employees to classes during their lunch break. I am in the process of confirming events for my 2012 calendar but there's room for more! One of my greatest desires is to teach people about the benefits of meditation to help manage stress (the main focus for these classes).
· Yoga: In March, 2012 I will receive my Yoga Teaching Certification and become registered with the Yoga Alliance. Private and group sessions will be offered at yoga studios, The Pujari Center, Swedish, as well as many "Wellness Programs" within the business community.
Writing: A major focus in 2011 has been on my writing and where I've experienced the most growth. Here's a rundown:
· My book: The self-help book I've been working on is starting to read like a book! I've been working with writing coach and developmental editor, Brooke Warner, for the past year and a half and my little project is finally coming together! Once complete, I will offer more classes and workshops directly related to tools I've gathered over the years and compiled in the book. Looking forward to this! Keep an eye out here as well as my web site for when and where these classes will begin.
· Articles: On the advice on my writing coach I began blogging more and writing articles. Although a little bit of a time challenge to post blogs on a regular basis, the process has helped me hone my writing skills and learn to manage my time. After procrastinating for many months, I finally submitted a few articles to "EzineArticles", of which two were accepted and posted online with one in revision. Many more articles are in work! Go to this site and search on my name (Ruth Stender) to find published articles. http://ezinearticles.com/.
· My first article for New Spirit Journal, Seven Triggers of Holiday Stress and Seven Preventive Tips, was just published in the December issue. http://newspiritjournal.com/current-issue
· Pujari Center: Dr. Astrid Pujari writes a monthly newsletter/blog and has invited practitioners at the clinic to contribute. My intention is to write a few articles so check the web site for articles from not only me but other practitioners on a variety of topics and modalities offered at the clinic. For current articles go here: http://www.pujaricenter.com/blog
· Columnist: Beginning February 2012, I will begin writing a monthly column for New Spirit Journal, called "Chakra Talk". The focus is, well, on the chakras! and will offer basic information and practical tips for balancing your seven major energy centers. Krysta Gibson, founder and publisher of NSJ, has created a wonderful platform for brining mind, body, spirit health to the headlines. I am so honored to be a contributor to this wonderful publication. Go here for the current issue: http://www.newspiritjournal.com/current-issue. By the way, NSJ is a great place to advertise your products and services and the cost is very reasonable.
It is my intention to continue my own personal journey while offering guidance in the way of sessions, classes, and writing—integrated in a way that enhances the lives of others.
Many blessings of joy to you! And thank you for your continued support.
In gratitude,
Ruth
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Reciprocity ...Life "IS" a Circle
I attended a fundraising event back in the spring to support an organization I started volunteering with about 15 years ago. When I received the invitation in the mail I tossed into my "look at it later" pile, but instantly felt a pang in my gut. So, I pulled it out and placed it in my "look at this sooner-rather-than-later pile." A few days later, I read the details. It was an early morning breakfast. Again, I thought, can I really make it, do I feel up for it? I had other appointments and was just getting over a little cold. But that gut feeling wouldn't go away. I sent a note that I would attend.
Each table sat about ten people and we had a "getting to know you" part where we were invited to go around and introduce ourselves. Although I knew a few people at my table, it was mostly new faces. I was still getting used to introducing myself with an emphasis on my new work and was in the habit of saying "well, I used to work in engineering, but now I ...." with a bunch of words trying to explain my new—and not so mainstream—line of work in energy medicine. Part of my explanation included that I was currently enrolled in a meditation certification program. That clicked.
Turns out one of the women at my table works for Swedish Hospital in Seattle and mentioned a new campus about to open in Issaquah, just east of Seattle, and said they would have a yoga space. She gave me her card and suggested I contact her. About a week later I sent her an email. In a matter of a couple of days, I was in direct contact with the director of yoga programs for a phone interview. From there, I was expected to write up a resume, provide a lesson plan, write a bio relevant to the class I would teach, come up with a cost structure, my schedule (for an entire year! ...what!), references, and many other required documents to get the ball rolling. And, boy did the ball get rolling! After many months of planning to get all ducks in a row, the new space is now open and I am there teaching! Just like that! The universe had a plan. I just needed to show up, say YES! and seize the moment. I did.
Some people ask me, "Wow, how did you do that!?!" because it's such an amazing opportunity and I am such a newbie! I tell them, "Well, I went to a fundraising event for a non-profit organization that I support and volunteer with sometimes and met this woman...." And depending on who is asking, I tell them how I almost didn't go ...the best part of the story! Because I followed my intuition—guided by spirit—that's how it happened. I just had to show up.
I simply went to the event, made a small contribution, enjoyed a lovely presentation, sipped some coffee, made some new friends, and got a new teaching job! Of course, that's not why I went (to get a new job!) but it just proves the point that you can't possibly know what awaits you. You just have to go with your gut. If you feel the magnet drawing you, be magnetized—and follow the pull.
Life is one big circle. When you give, you keep the circle of life moving. You keep the energy, the life force, flowing. But when you remain only in your own small space, you limit growth, your opportunities, your circle. The magnetic life force that keeps things moving—the circle circulating—stops with you if you don't take action.
Reach out and help somebody, give back ...you just never know what you may get back in return. It might be a smile from the person you helped. It might be a new friend. It might be a new job. You just can't know. But it's guaranteed to be a good thing though. Guaranteed.
Just keep the circle going!
Each table sat about ten people and we had a "getting to know you" part where we were invited to go around and introduce ourselves. Although I knew a few people at my table, it was mostly new faces. I was still getting used to introducing myself with an emphasis on my new work and was in the habit of saying "well, I used to work in engineering, but now I ...." with a bunch of words trying to explain my new—and not so mainstream—line of work in energy medicine. Part of my explanation included that I was currently enrolled in a meditation certification program. That clicked.
Turns out one of the women at my table works for Swedish Hospital in Seattle and mentioned a new campus about to open in Issaquah, just east of Seattle, and said they would have a yoga space. She gave me her card and suggested I contact her. About a week later I sent her an email. In a matter of a couple of days, I was in direct contact with the director of yoga programs for a phone interview. From there, I was expected to write up a resume, provide a lesson plan, write a bio relevant to the class I would teach, come up with a cost structure, my schedule (for an entire year! ...what!), references, and many other required documents to get the ball rolling. And, boy did the ball get rolling! After many months of planning to get all ducks in a row, the new space is now open and I am there teaching! Just like that! The universe had a plan. I just needed to show up, say YES! and seize the moment. I did.
Some people ask me, "Wow, how did you do that!?!" because it's such an amazing opportunity and I am such a newbie! I tell them, "Well, I went to a fundraising event for a non-profit organization that I support and volunteer with sometimes and met this woman...." And depending on who is asking, I tell them how I almost didn't go ...the best part of the story! Because I followed my intuition—guided by spirit—that's how it happened. I just had to show up.
I simply went to the event, made a small contribution, enjoyed a lovely presentation, sipped some coffee, made some new friends, and got a new teaching job! Of course, that's not why I went (to get a new job!) but it just proves the point that you can't possibly know what awaits you. You just have to go with your gut. If you feel the magnet drawing you, be magnetized—and follow the pull.
Life is one big circle. When you give, you keep the circle of life moving. You keep the energy, the life force, flowing. But when you remain only in your own small space, you limit growth, your opportunities, your circle. The magnetic life force that keeps things moving—the circle circulating—stops with you if you don't take action.
Reach out and help somebody, give back ...you just never know what you may get back in return. It might be a smile from the person you helped. It might be a new friend. It might be a new job. You just can't know. But it's guaranteed to be a good thing though. Guaranteed.
Just keep the circle going!
Divination Tools
Many people think of tarot, angel, oracle, and other types of divination tools as "out there" and bit too woo-woo to try. Growing up in a conservative southern state, I totally get that! But, I have to say that my experience has been nothing but positive and actually downright fun! Not only fun, but very accurate. Honestly, all you're doing when pulling a tarot card is providing Spirit a tool for communicating with you. It's as simple as that.
When I first started pulling cards I kept a journal. The whole idea was new to me and I was still a little unsure about it so I was interested in "proving" it out. The uncanny thing was that each card I pulled was exactly what I needed to hear—every single time. And then I noticed how the same cards kept showing up over and over. Sometimes I would even imagine which card I wanted and sure enough, I pulled it! I think those times were Spirit's way of letting me know this isn't so hokey after all but the real deal—a real way for us to communicate. I came to respect the whole process very quickly.
When I draw cards now I completely trust and even expect the exact answer needed for that particular moment or situation. I simply know I'm tapping in the "source" where the answers lie. I've actually started turning to my cards for practical things too. For example, recently my neighbor's dog ran off. They were searching all around and filled with distress. I felt so bad for them so got my coat to go help. But, just before heading out I remembered to go turn off a heater in my work area. I went upstairs, flipped the switch, and as I turned to walk away, my eyes passed over one of my tarot decks. I thought, what the heck, I'll ask where the dog is. I shuffled and a few cards accidentally fell to the floor. I've learned these occurrences are not really accidents at all so I picked them up. I picked up the first card and thought, hmm, it looks like a tree. I went to read the commentary but knew that wasn't the point at all and I was to just study the graphics on the card. A tree, yep that's what the artwork resembled. And so did the next two cards, trees. Okay, the dog is under a tree I guess. I even said it aloud as if acknowledging the help.
As I walked off my porch and turned to walk I saw my neighbors walking toward me. The dog was happily trotting alongside. They found him! I was so happy for them but had to ask. "So, where did you find him?" "Oh, about 5 blocks down the hill sitting under a tree." I just smiled inside. I have all kinds of stories like this, but this one really gave me a good laugh with Spirit. It's just plain fun.
Whether it's a deck of cards, a book on animal totems, nature, runes, or whatever, it is okay to give it a try! All you have to do is not be so serious about it and let go of any fears based on the fact that you were told of the condemnation you would encounter if you ever touched such evil things. It's not evil. And, in all honesty, you don't really need any of these sorts of tools. You only need yourself.
The way you use yourself as a tool for spirit to talk with you is to sit in stillness. In the expansion phase of meditation, your heightened state of consciousness has you sitting right there next to the source of all knowing. All you have to do is ask for guidance in your place of complete and utter stillness. The answer will always show up for you. Just get quiet. Be still. Then ask. And then lighten up and have some fun with all the other stuff too!
By the way, my favorite card deck is the Thoth Tarot Deck by Aleister Crowley. I use the book, The Tarot Handbook, by Angeles Arrien for excellent additional commentary.
Have fun!
When I first started pulling cards I kept a journal. The whole idea was new to me and I was still a little unsure about it so I was interested in "proving" it out. The uncanny thing was that each card I pulled was exactly what I needed to hear—every single time. And then I noticed how the same cards kept showing up over and over. Sometimes I would even imagine which card I wanted and sure enough, I pulled it! I think those times were Spirit's way of letting me know this isn't so hokey after all but the real deal—a real way for us to communicate. I came to respect the whole process very quickly.
When I draw cards now I completely trust and even expect the exact answer needed for that particular moment or situation. I simply know I'm tapping in the "source" where the answers lie. I've actually started turning to my cards for practical things too. For example, recently my neighbor's dog ran off. They were searching all around and filled with distress. I felt so bad for them so got my coat to go help. But, just before heading out I remembered to go turn off a heater in my work area. I went upstairs, flipped the switch, and as I turned to walk away, my eyes passed over one of my tarot decks. I thought, what the heck, I'll ask where the dog is. I shuffled and a few cards accidentally fell to the floor. I've learned these occurrences are not really accidents at all so I picked them up. I picked up the first card and thought, hmm, it looks like a tree. I went to read the commentary but knew that wasn't the point at all and I was to just study the graphics on the card. A tree, yep that's what the artwork resembled. And so did the next two cards, trees. Okay, the dog is under a tree I guess. I even said it aloud as if acknowledging the help.
As I walked off my porch and turned to walk I saw my neighbors walking toward me. The dog was happily trotting alongside. They found him! I was so happy for them but had to ask. "So, where did you find him?" "Oh, about 5 blocks down the hill sitting under a tree." I just smiled inside. I have all kinds of stories like this, but this one really gave me a good laugh with Spirit. It's just plain fun.
Whether it's a deck of cards, a book on animal totems, nature, runes, or whatever, it is okay to give it a try! All you have to do is not be so serious about it and let go of any fears based on the fact that you were told of the condemnation you would encounter if you ever touched such evil things. It's not evil. And, in all honesty, you don't really need any of these sorts of tools. You only need yourself.
The way you use yourself as a tool for spirit to talk with you is to sit in stillness. In the expansion phase of meditation, your heightened state of consciousness has you sitting right there next to the source of all knowing. All you have to do is ask for guidance in your place of complete and utter stillness. The answer will always show up for you. Just get quiet. Be still. Then ask. And then lighten up and have some fun with all the other stuff too!
By the way, my favorite card deck is the Thoth Tarot Deck by Aleister Crowley. I use the book, The Tarot Handbook, by Angeles Arrien for excellent additional commentary.
Have fun!
Monday, September 19, 2011
Today's My Birthday!
Today is my birthday. I'm forty seven. This morning as I sat in reflection of my life (birthdays have a way of doing that don't they) I was overcome with a sense of gratitude.
Sitting in my living room with a warm cup of coffee, I looked around. The colors and textures giving my space a sense of me ....what I like, where I like it, and happy that it feels like home. I created the space just the way I like it. What a blessing I thought ...to feel at home in my home.
As I settled in to one of my favorite chairs I read a short piece from an inspirational book nearby. My mind soon wandered back in time. Suddenly, I was overcome with a warming sensation rising up from deep within me ...soon, it was all around me ...pulsating, vibrating, glowing ...engulfing me with its flame. On an in breath, I instantly knew what it was as it penetrated to the depths of my heart, my soul. I was feeling all the love from all the people in my life. So many faces appeared in my mind's eye. My thoughts reminding me how one way or another each and every one of these people have molded me, colored me, shaped me. Some through pain and suffering and others through gentle kindness. But each have played a significant role in my life.
From childhood friends, classmates, teachers, and distant cousins, who I am grateful to have reconnected with through the gift of social media, to those dear ones on the other side who continue to nurture me; their soul and my soul celebrating each one's highest good. To those who have pushed me beyond my limits ...only to find that I am limitless. I cherish everyone who has ever crossed paths with me, for whatever reason, in whatever way. And I so treasure my life in the here and now—the blessing of family, close friends, and community.
I am blessed beyond measure and I thank God for reminding me of you ...especially today. I am given the gift of knowing you at various times in my life ...and now for the rest of my life. All I have to do is sit in the stillness and there you are. So on this day, my day, I celebrate you ...because in celebrating you, I celebrate me.
Peace to all,
Ruth
Sitting in my living room with a warm cup of coffee, I looked around. The colors and textures giving my space a sense of me ....what I like, where I like it, and happy that it feels like home. I created the space just the way I like it. What a blessing I thought ...to feel at home in my home.
As I settled in to one of my favorite chairs I read a short piece from an inspirational book nearby. My mind soon wandered back in time. Suddenly, I was overcome with a warming sensation rising up from deep within me ...soon, it was all around me ...pulsating, vibrating, glowing ...engulfing me with its flame. On an in breath, I instantly knew what it was as it penetrated to the depths of my heart, my soul. I was feeling all the love from all the people in my life. So many faces appeared in my mind's eye. My thoughts reminding me how one way or another each and every one of these people have molded me, colored me, shaped me. Some through pain and suffering and others through gentle kindness. But each have played a significant role in my life.
From childhood friends, classmates, teachers, and distant cousins, who I am grateful to have reconnected with through the gift of social media, to those dear ones on the other side who continue to nurture me; their soul and my soul celebrating each one's highest good. To those who have pushed me beyond my limits ...only to find that I am limitless. I cherish everyone who has ever crossed paths with me, for whatever reason, in whatever way. And I so treasure my life in the here and now—the blessing of family, close friends, and community.
I am blessed beyond measure and I thank God for reminding me of you ...especially today. I am given the gift of knowing you at various times in my life ...and now for the rest of my life. All I have to do is sit in the stillness and there you are. So on this day, my day, I celebrate you ...because in celebrating you, I celebrate me.
Peace to all,
Ruth
Monday, August 1, 2011
Meditation vs. Medication
After living with the idea that I likely had Lupus for about three months, I was finally given a diagnosis of having a "pre-disposition" to this incurable and sometimes fatal disease. My scare with lupus was one of many scares over the past several years that eventually caused me to stop and take a hard look at my life. I was tested for stroke several times; the worst being a late night in the ER at one of Seattle's (training) hospitals where an intern practiced her lumbar juncture (spinal tap) skills on me. The "real" doctor eventually took over, but I gave the intern some good practice! I think I've paid my dues and will decline the role of guinea pig next time. I've been tested for pulmonary embolism; have scar on my neck from a biopsy to check for lymphoma; have a predisposition for hypothyroidism; irregular heartbeats in the upper and lower chambers of my heart as well at the occasional Supraventricular tachycardia, i.e., various forms of arrhythmia. Woe is me, right? Not really. All these things brought me to where I am today---more balanced, happier, healthier, and stronger than I've been in years!
Although I knew stress was bad for me, I didn't fully understand how stress was literally changing the chemicals in my body (which directly affects the heart, endocrine system, immune system, nervous system ...all major bodily systems). And although I'd practiced yoga many times over the years, it was through energy medicine that I came to know that yoga is actually the practice of engaging the body's subtle energy. And although I'd considered myself a meditator for many years, it was my study of energy in the body that taught me that meditation is an energetic "getting to know thyself" practice. Bottom line is that I believe learning about energy medicine, and the practice of yoga and meditation, saved my life ...and then changed my life.
I don't take medications for my arrhythmia or any other "pre-disposition". I control it all by eliminating as much stress from my life as possible, which includes avoiding foods that upset the way my body functions ---another form of stress---and a regular meditation and yoga practice. Meditation and yoga are what keep me grounded and alive---figuratively and literally! Medication, although good for some people and some situations, have not bode well for me, in general.
For example, after being offered a beta blocker for years I finally tried it after my car accident. Lying in the ER and seeing the look on my husband's face as he watched the sporadic rhythm on the monitor made me reconsider. Being used to the irregularity of my heart beats, I was just waiting for them to settle down as I silently talked my heart into beating with the rhythm of my soul---a little practice that had been working, but not this time (having to compete with so much adrenaline rushing through my body). But, seeing the look on his face and hearing yet another lecture from yet another doctor, I gave the beta blocker a try. Let me just say, the meds were not for me! The irregularity of my heart became so constant I really did think I might have a heart attack. After a week of taking the meds, I phoned my integrative doctor who helped me wean off within three weeks.
I really do attribute all my health issues to stress. It's not to say that I no longer have stress, but I now have skills on how to better manage it when I do. For example, I have learned that my practice of yoga and meditation is best for controlling the arrhythmia. And my cardiologist agrees with me! Talk about the proof being in the pudding! If I get off track with my practice my heart acts up---just like that! There are lots of reasons people suffer from arrhythmia, but, for many, stress is often one of the biggest factors. According to WebMD, more than 850,000 people are hospitalized for an arrhythmia each year. Given the fast-paced culture and pressure (stress) to keep up or get out, it's no wonder!
When I stop and think about how drastic my life has changed in just a few short years, I am amazed. I don't think it would have happened had it not been for my illnesses and a couple of close-call accidents.
If you're having health issues or seem to be having a lot of accidents, stop, slow down for a minute, and pay attention. These things are usually a sign that you need to make some sort of change. It doesn't mean you have to be drastic and quit your job or get a divorce, but it might mean you just need a new way of thinking or learn about new ways to manage stress or heal your body.
For me, at least at this time in my life, meditation beats out medication, hands down! But, it does take a lot of work and self-discipline. No one can do it for you. There's no pill. You have to show up. Every day. But, I am willing and so it works for me. If you're on meds, but looking for more options, give meditation a try. You can do it while on the meds so there's no harm in trying.
If you're looking for some help on how to get started, send me an email. I am happy to provide some basic "how to" stuff ...for free! One of my favorite books is How to Meditate by Joytish Novak. Check it out.
And starting this week, Wednesday, August 3rd, I will be teaching my first meditation class at the Pujari Center. Class is from 5:00 pm to 6:00 pm (cost is on a donation basis ...pay what you can). For more information and location: www.pujaricenter.com.
In peace,
Ruth
Although I knew stress was bad for me, I didn't fully understand how stress was literally changing the chemicals in my body (which directly affects the heart, endocrine system, immune system, nervous system ...all major bodily systems). And although I'd practiced yoga many times over the years, it was through energy medicine that I came to know that yoga is actually the practice of engaging the body's subtle energy. And although I'd considered myself a meditator for many years, it was my study of energy in the body that taught me that meditation is an energetic "getting to know thyself" practice. Bottom line is that I believe learning about energy medicine, and the practice of yoga and meditation, saved my life ...and then changed my life.
I don't take medications for my arrhythmia or any other "pre-disposition". I control it all by eliminating as much stress from my life as possible, which includes avoiding foods that upset the way my body functions ---another form of stress---and a regular meditation and yoga practice. Meditation and yoga are what keep me grounded and alive---figuratively and literally! Medication, although good for some people and some situations, have not bode well for me, in general.
For example, after being offered a beta blocker for years I finally tried it after my car accident. Lying in the ER and seeing the look on my husband's face as he watched the sporadic rhythm on the monitor made me reconsider. Being used to the irregularity of my heart beats, I was just waiting for them to settle down as I silently talked my heart into beating with the rhythm of my soul---a little practice that had been working, but not this time (having to compete with so much adrenaline rushing through my body). But, seeing the look on his face and hearing yet another lecture from yet another doctor, I gave the beta blocker a try. Let me just say, the meds were not for me! The irregularity of my heart became so constant I really did think I might have a heart attack. After a week of taking the meds, I phoned my integrative doctor who helped me wean off within three weeks.
I really do attribute all my health issues to stress. It's not to say that I no longer have stress, but I now have skills on how to better manage it when I do. For example, I have learned that my practice of yoga and meditation is best for controlling the arrhythmia. And my cardiologist agrees with me! Talk about the proof being in the pudding! If I get off track with my practice my heart acts up---just like that! There are lots of reasons people suffer from arrhythmia, but, for many, stress is often one of the biggest factors. According to WebMD, more than 850,000 people are hospitalized for an arrhythmia each year. Given the fast-paced culture and pressure (stress) to keep up or get out, it's no wonder!
When I stop and think about how drastic my life has changed in just a few short years, I am amazed. I don't think it would have happened had it not been for my illnesses and a couple of close-call accidents.
If you're having health issues or seem to be having a lot of accidents, stop, slow down for a minute, and pay attention. These things are usually a sign that you need to make some sort of change. It doesn't mean you have to be drastic and quit your job or get a divorce, but it might mean you just need a new way of thinking or learn about new ways to manage stress or heal your body.
For me, at least at this time in my life, meditation beats out medication, hands down! But, it does take a lot of work and self-discipline. No one can do it for you. There's no pill. You have to show up. Every day. But, I am willing and so it works for me. If you're on meds, but looking for more options, give meditation a try. You can do it while on the meds so there's no harm in trying.
If you're looking for some help on how to get started, send me an email. I am happy to provide some basic "how to" stuff ...for free! One of my favorite books is How to Meditate by Joytish Novak. Check it out.
And starting this week, Wednesday, August 3rd, I will be teaching my first meditation class at the Pujari Center. Class is from 5:00 pm to 6:00 pm (cost is on a donation basis ...pay what you can). For more information and location: www.pujaricenter.com.
In peace,
Ruth
Monday, July 25, 2011
The Bicycle Man
Can you imagine being thirty-something, living in Seattle—where bicycling is a big part of the culture—not knowing how to ride a bike ...and wanting to? For one of my clients, I will call her Clarissa, that is just the case. And it's interesting the parallels I see between Clarissa and my two and a half year old grandson, Henry. Much like a child wanting to learn how to ride, Clarissa is filled with the same level of desire, but lacks the skills and confidence. And like Clarissa, Henry has experienced the frustration and fear of falling when trying something new. Henry's first crash resulted in not only a scraped up elbow and understanding of why he wears a helmet, but his refusal to try it again.
Isn't that the case with so many things we try? If we fall and get hurt, we tend to put that thing aside and go on to something more familiar, safer, and in our control. Problem with that though is that when we make the choice to always live in our comfort zone we can't learn new things or come to know our limitations. Imagine if people like Lance Armstrong decided not to get back on his bike after crashing. And think of the millions of people who have learned to ride a bicycle ....as if it's just part of growing up. Part of what helps in the case of learning to ride a bicycle is that we get to see so many other people doing it. Of course, if "she" can ride a bike, then so can I, we think. And it's true! We naturally have more confidence in a thing when we see others doing it. They didn't die trying it and actually look to be having a great time...hmm, you think, I gotta do that!
Then there are the more (seemingly) uncommon fears to overcome with not so many role models to follow. I'm talking about things like quitting a job, confronting a friend who betrayed you, or asking for a raise when you know you deserve it. But, if we apply the same courage it takes to get on a bike for the first time, we can achieve these things; in some cases, things we never knew were possible. Getting on a bike for the first time takes desire and an understanding of what's being asked of you (to pedal, steer, and brake) but more importantly, a lot of courage!
Taking my grandson to the skate park where there are lots of bicyclists helped him get interested again. He saw a four year old on his push bike (small bike with no pedals) going up and down the hilly dirt terrain designed for trail (mountain) bikes to do jumps and tricks. Henry was in awe, mesmerized by this person about the same size as him (Henry's a big boy) going where "big people" go, doing "big people" stuff. He saw courage in action. Henry soon asked my husband to go get "his" push bike...now. Just like the tricycle, his push bike is something he showed interest in, but then shied away from upon his initial feeling of being out of control. But now he had renewed motivation and was not so scared because others were doing OK at it.
Seeing others achieving the same goals we desire serves as great motivation, but it also begs the question, how did they do it? It's simple. They faced their fears and did it anyway.
Recently, after finally getting the courage to climb back on the tricycle, my grandson learned to pedal—all by himself! Within an hour, he wasn't just pedaling a few feet, stopping, checking it out; he was speeding down the sidewalk at a fast pace! His newfound freedom set him loose. With thoughts of only going forward, he was three houses away before we knew it.
Writing about this takes me back to a special memory of when I was a kid. My brothers and sisters and I woke up one day to find bicycles for each us leaned up in a row out front in our dirt yard. A mix of old bikes they were. Each one of various colors, shapes, and sizes. They had been recycled to build "new" bikes. We didn't know how they got there or who made them, but it was obvious these bikes were for us!
It has always been a mystery who the "bicycle man" was that gifted us with such generosity but we think of him often. Had it not been for the Bicycle Man, I wonder if I would be like my client—watching from the sidelines as others speed by—thinking how do I muster up the courage, face fears, and do it anyway?
I must have learned to ride a bike because I watched my older brothers and sisters doing it. No one ever gave me a lesson, per se; I just did what I saw others doing ....successfully. But, let's face it, learning to ride a bike as an adult is much harder than taking it on with the fearlessness and determination of a kid.
It won't be long before Clarissa learns to ride, though. Our next meeting is at a local park. And just like in life, she'll be learning skills on how to balance while accelerating, steering, braking, navigating obstacles, coasting with abandon, and doing it anyway. Who knows, maybe one day she'll let me teach her how to ride with no hands or do a wheelie. Hmmm, might need to get my brother Mel for that one ...he could ride for miles on his back wheel. No exaggeration. Thank you Bicycle Man.
Isn't that the case with so many things we try? If we fall and get hurt, we tend to put that thing aside and go on to something more familiar, safer, and in our control. Problem with that though is that when we make the choice to always live in our comfort zone we can't learn new things or come to know our limitations. Imagine if people like Lance Armstrong decided not to get back on his bike after crashing. And think of the millions of people who have learned to ride a bicycle ....as if it's just part of growing up. Part of what helps in the case of learning to ride a bicycle is that we get to see so many other people doing it. Of course, if "she" can ride a bike, then so can I, we think. And it's true! We naturally have more confidence in a thing when we see others doing it. They didn't die trying it and actually look to be having a great time...hmm, you think, I gotta do that!
Then there are the more (seemingly) uncommon fears to overcome with not so many role models to follow. I'm talking about things like quitting a job, confronting a friend who betrayed you, or asking for a raise when you know you deserve it. But, if we apply the same courage it takes to get on a bike for the first time, we can achieve these things; in some cases, things we never knew were possible. Getting on a bike for the first time takes desire and an understanding of what's being asked of you (to pedal, steer, and brake) but more importantly, a lot of courage!
Taking my grandson to the skate park where there are lots of bicyclists helped him get interested again. He saw a four year old on his push bike (small bike with no pedals) going up and down the hilly dirt terrain designed for trail (mountain) bikes to do jumps and tricks. Henry was in awe, mesmerized by this person about the same size as him (Henry's a big boy) going where "big people" go, doing "big people" stuff. He saw courage in action. Henry soon asked my husband to go get "his" push bike...now. Just like the tricycle, his push bike is something he showed interest in, but then shied away from upon his initial feeling of being out of control. But now he had renewed motivation and was not so scared because others were doing OK at it.
Seeing others achieving the same goals we desire serves as great motivation, but it also begs the question, how did they do it? It's simple. They faced their fears and did it anyway.
Recently, after finally getting the courage to climb back on the tricycle, my grandson learned to pedal—all by himself! Within an hour, he wasn't just pedaling a few feet, stopping, checking it out; he was speeding down the sidewalk at a fast pace! His newfound freedom set him loose. With thoughts of only going forward, he was three houses away before we knew it.
Writing about this takes me back to a special memory of when I was a kid. My brothers and sisters and I woke up one day to find bicycles for each us leaned up in a row out front in our dirt yard. A mix of old bikes they were. Each one of various colors, shapes, and sizes. They had been recycled to build "new" bikes. We didn't know how they got there or who made them, but it was obvious these bikes were for us!
It has always been a mystery who the "bicycle man" was that gifted us with such generosity but we think of him often. Had it not been for the Bicycle Man, I wonder if I would be like my client—watching from the sidelines as others speed by—thinking how do I muster up the courage, face fears, and do it anyway?
I must have learned to ride a bike because I watched my older brothers and sisters doing it. No one ever gave me a lesson, per se; I just did what I saw others doing ....successfully. But, let's face it, learning to ride a bike as an adult is much harder than taking it on with the fearlessness and determination of a kid.
It won't be long before Clarissa learns to ride, though. Our next meeting is at a local park. And just like in life, she'll be learning skills on how to balance while accelerating, steering, braking, navigating obstacles, coasting with abandon, and doing it anyway. Who knows, maybe one day she'll let me teach her how to ride with no hands or do a wheelie. Hmmm, might need to get my brother Mel for that one ...he could ride for miles on his back wheel. No exaggeration. Thank you Bicycle Man.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Tuesdays in Fremont at the "Pujari Center"
Beginning next week, Tuesday, July 19th, I will be seeing clients at the newly expanded Pujari Center in the Fremont neighborhood of Seattle.
To kick things off, I am offering a 50% discount for all appointments on that day! Please email me at ruth@seattleenergymedicine.com or call 206.708.3277 to reserve your spot!
Dr. Astrid Pujari is an MD who practices Integrative Medicine and she's also an herbalist! I've known Dr. Pujari for many years and credit her for helping me on my own path to better health and wellbeing. She is expanding her integrative clinic to include a wide-range of healing modalities; such as, energy healing, yoga, massage, and acupuncture, to name a few.
I am so happy and honored to be a part of this talented and heart-centered group of healing practitioners and invite you to come meet them at our open house on Monday, August 8th. All are welcome!
The clinic will also offer a weekly meditation class every Wednesday from 5:00PM-6:00PM. To give people an opportunity to try a variety of meditation techniques, each week will feature a different teacher and different style of meditation. I will be teaching the first Wednesday of every month for this ongoing series using techniques as taught by Paramhansa Yogananda, which basically involves various breathing techniques (pranayama) and word formula (mantra).
The updated Pujari Center web site will launch very soon to provide more details, but for now you may learn more about Dr. Astrid Pujari at http://www.pujaricenter.com/
Hope to see you soon!
Blessings of love and joy to all!
To kick things off, I am offering a 50% discount for all appointments on that day! Please email me at ruth@seattleenergymedicine.com or call 206.708.3277 to reserve your spot!
Dr. Astrid Pujari is an MD who practices Integrative Medicine and she's also an herbalist! I've known Dr. Pujari for many years and credit her for helping me on my own path to better health and wellbeing. She is expanding her integrative clinic to include a wide-range of healing modalities; such as, energy healing, yoga, massage, and acupuncture, to name a few.
I am so happy and honored to be a part of this talented and heart-centered group of healing practitioners and invite you to come meet them at our open house on Monday, August 8th. All are welcome!
The clinic will also offer a weekly meditation class every Wednesday from 5:00PM-6:00PM. To give people an opportunity to try a variety of meditation techniques, each week will feature a different teacher and different style of meditation. I will be teaching the first Wednesday of every month for this ongoing series using techniques as taught by Paramhansa Yogananda, which basically involves various breathing techniques (pranayama) and word formula (mantra).
The updated Pujari Center web site will launch very soon to provide more details, but for now you may learn more about Dr. Astrid Pujari at http://www.pujaricenter.com/
Hope to see you soon!
Blessings of love and joy to all!
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Getting Into the Slipstream of Cosmic Consciousness
On the path to better wellness and happiness we sometimes get tired of searching and just want someone else to tell us what to do. Sometimes it just feels like too much work to be happy! I've had several clients say to me, "But I'm just not interested in doing more "work"...I work all day and I want "this" (better health and happiness) to just be there." Well, that's understandable, and I have felt that way myself, but the fact is, no one can give us a magic potion or make "it" go away---each of us must take control and, yes, do some work. Taking control requires that we make at least some small effort, if we truly wish to improve our circumstances.
Let's say, you want to find that perfect mate, for example. You complain that you're lonely and you just can't find common ground with the people you meet. Most relationships you have all feel like a dead-end. You fall into a "what's the use" sort of attitude and become somewhat of a loner. Then you start feeling "left out" or "passed over" and perhaps take on the role of victim. Again, this is understandable, and I can tell you it happens to a lot people, so don't feel bad, just listen up here for a minute! The way out of this vicious cycle is twofold: 1) Stop complaining and 2) get yourself out there!
Getting out there is doing "the work" and the not complaining is simply an attitude adjustment. Imagine that all living things are connected and each living thing responds to every other living thing. Now, think about how your "poor ole me" attitude, sitting at home moping about will be received by the greater whole---the cosmic vibration---that you, and the rest of us, are connected to. Your every thought (also a living thing) and behavior will be received as "how you like it" to be and remain that way!
You see, the overall universal (cosmic) vibration considers us to have a high-level of intelligence and individual free will. Think of the universe (the energy around you and that which we are all connected to) as a responsive body of energy. This body of energy reads your thoughts as a request---because it respects your ability to think "how you wish it to be"---and responds in like. If you are feeling unworthy of the perfect mate, you will never find them. If you have thoughts of being the victim, you will continue being victimized.
On the other hand, if you do some work by seeking out groups of people you admire and hanging out with them, then you've changed your order, so to speak. The Universe now sees your order of "Oh, she wants to be with "this" type of energy" and begins to realign your surroundings to match that which you desire. It really is that simple.
The only thing you need to do is make yourself and your desires known. You make your desires known by getting into the slipstream of those you desire to be with. The momentum will soon kick in and take over. Your work is done!
Change your life by getting into the slipstream of cosmic consciousness and you will soon be in the slipstream of those you seek to be with. Once there, continue to think in terms of only those things and situations you desire. No need to think on the how, just see it as so. See the outcome as if it has already happened. If it has already happened, then you must know how it feels to experience it---get back into that feeling and really "work" to "feel" the experience. Engage all your senses: smell, it, see it, feel it, taste and hear it ...be "in" it ...now.
I have several tips on how to get into the slipstream of cosmic consciousness and the energy of the those you seek to be with, but offer one fail-safe idea here. Volunteer!
Volunteering is at the top of my list for meeting good-hearted people who have common interests with you. Volunteering also provides a way for you to "get out of your own way" which magically transforms a heavy, closed-off, heart to one of openness, love and kindness. Hmm, isn't that what you want in a mate? See how this works? Once you get into the energy of that which you desire, what you desire comes to you. It is the law of magnetism. Like attracts like.
If you're looking for some ideas on where to volunteer, just search online in your area. Or, feel free to send me an email to help get clarity on what might be a good fit for you!
Now, get to work!
In peace, love, and joy to all! ...because that's what I desire :o)
Let's say, you want to find that perfect mate, for example. You complain that you're lonely and you just can't find common ground with the people you meet. Most relationships you have all feel like a dead-end. You fall into a "what's the use" sort of attitude and become somewhat of a loner. Then you start feeling "left out" or "passed over" and perhaps take on the role of victim. Again, this is understandable, and I can tell you it happens to a lot people, so don't feel bad, just listen up here for a minute! The way out of this vicious cycle is twofold: 1) Stop complaining and 2) get yourself out there!
Getting out there is doing "the work" and the not complaining is simply an attitude adjustment. Imagine that all living things are connected and each living thing responds to every other living thing. Now, think about how your "poor ole me" attitude, sitting at home moping about will be received by the greater whole---the cosmic vibration---that you, and the rest of us, are connected to. Your every thought (also a living thing) and behavior will be received as "how you like it" to be and remain that way!
You see, the overall universal (cosmic) vibration considers us to have a high-level of intelligence and individual free will. Think of the universe (the energy around you and that which we are all connected to) as a responsive body of energy. This body of energy reads your thoughts as a request---because it respects your ability to think "how you wish it to be"---and responds in like. If you are feeling unworthy of the perfect mate, you will never find them. If you have thoughts of being the victim, you will continue being victimized.
On the other hand, if you do some work by seeking out groups of people you admire and hanging out with them, then you've changed your order, so to speak. The Universe now sees your order of "Oh, she wants to be with "this" type of energy" and begins to realign your surroundings to match that which you desire. It really is that simple.
The only thing you need to do is make yourself and your desires known. You make your desires known by getting into the slipstream of those you desire to be with. The momentum will soon kick in and take over. Your work is done!
Change your life by getting into the slipstream of cosmic consciousness and you will soon be in the slipstream of those you seek to be with. Once there, continue to think in terms of only those things and situations you desire. No need to think on the how, just see it as so. See the outcome as if it has already happened. If it has already happened, then you must know how it feels to experience it---get back into that feeling and really "work" to "feel" the experience. Engage all your senses: smell, it, see it, feel it, taste and hear it ...be "in" it ...now.
I have several tips on how to get into the slipstream of cosmic consciousness and the energy of the those you seek to be with, but offer one fail-safe idea here. Volunteer!
Volunteering is at the top of my list for meeting good-hearted people who have common interests with you. Volunteering also provides a way for you to "get out of your own way" which magically transforms a heavy, closed-off, heart to one of openness, love and kindness. Hmm, isn't that what you want in a mate? See how this works? Once you get into the energy of that which you desire, what you desire comes to you. It is the law of magnetism. Like attracts like.
If you're looking for some ideas on where to volunteer, just search online in your area. Or, feel free to send me an email to help get clarity on what might be a good fit for you!
Now, get to work!
In peace, love, and joy to all! ...because that's what I desire :o)
Friday, June 24, 2011
Poem From a Fellow Kriyaban
Over the past couple of years, I have become ever-more deeply committed to my meditation practice and have built a very strong spiritual community along the way. I have met many friends---old and new. How could you meet an "old" friend? Well, you know how when you meet someone and they just seem so familiar ...like you've known them before? It's like that.
Recently, one of my "old" (new) friends wrote me a poem and I just can't help but share it because of the depth of spirit I sense in his writing. This is a true example of writing from one's soul, from the heart. I feel so blessed to be the recipient of this lovely piece. Thank you, Bobby.
My dear sister, Ruthie.
As you fly into the skies of your new adventure, may you soar like a hang glider. Joyfully riding the thermals of grace and intuition, higher and higher into the skies of bliss.
I pray for your strength: To bring you through all you will face.
Your intuition: To guide you to what you came into this world to do.
Your creativity: To blossom and spread flowers of joy wherever you go. May you leave spiritual footprints along the path of everyone you meet.
Your spiritual electricity to shine a million suns.
Your spiritual steel to be forged into a mighty sword. May it break the bonds of those locked in darkness so that they may come into the light.
With love in God & Guru,
Bobby
Recently, one of my "old" (new) friends wrote me a poem and I just can't help but share it because of the depth of spirit I sense in his writing. This is a true example of writing from one's soul, from the heart. I feel so blessed to be the recipient of this lovely piece. Thank you, Bobby.
My dear sister, Ruthie.
As you fly into the skies of your new adventure, may you soar like a hang glider. Joyfully riding the thermals of grace and intuition, higher and higher into the skies of bliss.
I pray for your strength: To bring you through all you will face.
Your intuition: To guide you to what you came into this world to do.
Your creativity: To blossom and spread flowers of joy wherever you go. May you leave spiritual footprints along the path of everyone you meet.
Your spiritual electricity to shine a million suns.
Your spiritual steel to be forged into a mighty sword. May it break the bonds of those locked in darkness so that they may come into the light.
With love in God & Guru,
Bobby
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Chakra Clearing Chant
As we break out of spring and bounce into summer (albeit a slow arrival in Seattle!) it is good to do some spring cleaning! I don't know about you, but when my physical space gets a bit cluttered I personally feel cluttered and scattered as well. My overall sense of peace is compromised, my energy level is depleted, and I can't think clearly. So, just as I work to clear the clutter from my physical space, I also work to clear the energy centers in my body.
To help clear my energy I came up with a "Chakra Clearing Chant". Although I call it a "chant" it can be used as a simple affirmation, mantra, feeling, or something to focus on while meditating. The beauty I see in the chakras is their actual "aspects" because each aspect is so easily incorporated into daily life.
Below is the Chakra Clearing Chant. Give it a try by placing your attention at each location while saying the words, either aloud or mentally. I like to place my hands at each location as an extra aid for concentrating the energy and specific aspect of each particular chakra. Practicing this exercise while standing near a window or outside is even better because it puts you closer to the elements associated with each chakra.
And the more cluttered my space, the more beneficial this technique! I happen to have been doing it a lot lately :o).
Enjoy!
Chakra Clearing Chant
I am pure, I am free
Grounded like a tree!
(root chakra, #1)
I am pure, I am free
To express creatively!
(sacral chakra, #2)
I am pure, I am free
Accepting all of me!
(lumbar chakra, #3)
I am pure, I am free
Love embraces me!
(heart chakra, #4)
I am pure, I am free
Speaking joyfully!
(throat chakra, #5)
I am pure, I am free
With clarity I see!
(third eye/spiritual eye, #6)
I am pure, I am free
As I unite with Thee!
(crown chakra, #7)
Yes, I am pure, I am free ...I live authentically!
To help clear my energy I came up with a "Chakra Clearing Chant". Although I call it a "chant" it can be used as a simple affirmation, mantra, feeling, or something to focus on while meditating. The beauty I see in the chakras is their actual "aspects" because each aspect is so easily incorporated into daily life.
Below is the Chakra Clearing Chant. Give it a try by placing your attention at each location while saying the words, either aloud or mentally. I like to place my hands at each location as an extra aid for concentrating the energy and specific aspect of each particular chakra. Practicing this exercise while standing near a window or outside is even better because it puts you closer to the elements associated with each chakra.
And the more cluttered my space, the more beneficial this technique! I happen to have been doing it a lot lately :o).
Enjoy!
Chakra Clearing Chant
I am pure, I am free
Grounded like a tree!
(root chakra, #1)
I am pure, I am free
To express creatively!
(sacral chakra, #2)
I am pure, I am free
Accepting all of me!
(lumbar chakra, #3)
I am pure, I am free
Love embraces me!
(heart chakra, #4)
I am pure, I am free
Speaking joyfully!
(throat chakra, #5)
I am pure, I am free
With clarity I see!
(third eye/spiritual eye, #6)
I am pure, I am free
As I unite with Thee!
(crown chakra, #7)
Yes, I am pure, I am free ...I live authentically!
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Full-Circle Awareness
As we get busy with life and daily responsibilities we lose sight of the "here and now"—the moments, you might say. And before you know it, those little moments add up to hours, days, weeks, and years. All of a sudden, you stop and ask yourself, "where in the world has all the time gone?" "Wasn't it just summer before last that we went on that road trip to see your sister" you might ask your partner. When they reply, "No silly, her kids were in junior-high then; they're nearly finished with college!" Whoa, close to ten years, just like that—gone! Or so it seems. How did you lose so many gazillions of moments—there's so many! Where did they go?
Sometimes we become aware of the present moment just by realizing how quickly so many moments have flown by. And sometimes life itself snaps us into the present moment through major events—happy ones and sad ones—like weddings and having babies or illnesses or life-altering accidents. My car accident a few years ago, for example, made me hyperaware of the moments I was losing by staying in a job that I no longer enjoyed. My work used to be fulfilling but somewhere along the way things changed and it was no longer rewarding. Not only did my job not fulfill me, it was draining me, depleting my energy, and I was even getting sick. I was not managing the stress very well and it was killing me. Then the accident nearly did just that. In retrospect, the car accident was a God-send. I am not only alive, but I'm very healthy, and doing work I love!
The accident literally stopped me in my tracks. And it's where I learned the true meaning of present-moment awareness. I became fully aware of each moment—leaving an indelible imprint in my mind of the whole accident as it unfolded. It's true what they say about things like that happening in "slow motion". But a few moments after everything came to a halt, facing southbound from the northbound lanes, in the middle of 4-lane freeway, I sat in the stillness staring at stunned faces of drivers staring back at me. White knuckling their steering wheels, unblinking, in shock over what almost just happened to them, they sat unmoving, fixed in time. It's like I was on stage and they were my audience; mesmerized by my performance. Perhaps in shock that I was staring back, alive and no one was dead. Were they about to applaud? It was the weirdest feeling being stared at like that, in that place. But then, I came to ...realizing I'd just escaped death. Tears came as the weight of it all set in. I'd been spared. I'm not sure what it meant for the guy who hit me, but it was a wake-up call for me. It caused me to pause and reevaluate my life; it snapped me into reality. Thanking my guardian angels, I felt divine love deep in my heart. I'd just experienced a miracle.
As I lay strapped to a back board in the ambulance on the way to Seattle's trauma center, my surroundings became crystal clear. The specks of gray in the EMT's blue eyes, the sound of the pavement beneath the tires, the churning axles, the squeaky chassis just a few feet below my head, the siren of the ambulance, the bumps in the road as we climbed the hill to the ER. The medic checked my vitals and talked with me as I witnessed the calming presence within my heart. Clarity came from deep within as I had the awareness that I would finally need to come into my own—my purpose—if I intended to stick around. I needed to start living my life in accordance with my soul, my Truth. This accident needed to happen. I silently kept thanking God; not for protecting me, but for correcting my course in life.
It's what I was "not" aware of that showed me the accident was no mere accident. It was life correcting itself, correcting me, getting me back in alignment. I was not fully aware of, or accepting the potential consequences of, the fact that "not living" my life—with joy and purpose—was killing me. I knew something was off, but I just kept putting off doing something about it ....one more day, you know.
Paradoxically, nearly losing my life brought me into the present moment where I got a good look at how I was living my life. What I was not aware of—that I was not living in accordance with my soul's purpose—brought me into full awareness that I must get reacquainted with my soul and make some changes. Full-Circle Awareness.
To come "full circle" means to arrive back where you started; that would be my Truth, or Soul, in this case. Full circle awareness begins when you become aware that a circumstance (living in opposition to my Truth) causes a consequence (my accident) and then using the results of the consequence (being jolted into and accepting reality, then taking responsibility) to gain insight—awareness—for how to improve the original circumstance (how I was living, or not living, my life).
I needed that accident to bring me full circle, back to where I started—back in touch with my Soul—because I was choosing to ignore the more subtle signs; illnesses, unhappiness, and general apathy. The trauma forced me to become fully awake—aware—and ready to accept that I'd lost touch with my true essence and needed to figure out how to find my way back home.
It isn't necessary to go through a major event like a car accident to become present. But if we go through life without at least some moment-to-moment awareness—and take personal responsibility, ownership, for the changes needed—these major events will likely do the job for us. Bringing us into the present moment, here, now and fast! It's like Mother Nature correcting the ecosystem of the forest; it's needed for long-term sustainability—and it's inevitable.
To go through life with the blinders on at warp speed, like I was doing, is unnatural. The flowers are there for us to admire, smell, and sometimes pick for our tables. We are meant to smell the freshness of new rain, get caught in it on occasion where we are invited to dance and splash in a puddle or two. We are to daydream as we watch the clouds float by with the changing winds and imagine what it must be like to soar like a bird. When did you last look up at the sky? For me, it had been a while until that day I was strapped to a trauma board.
Try this. Stop, Look, and Listen. What is it that you are doing right now? How does whatever it is that you are doing feel, smell, sound, taste, or look like? Are you inhaling your lunch or have you stopped to enjoy the flavors. Have you considered how that food made it onto your plate? I don't mean you! Who grew, harvested, and shipped the vegetables to the place where you got your food?
The act of awareness is paying attention to your surroundings, listening to your heart, and also accepting what is. I often say, "it is what it is"—meaning, reality. Accepting that "it is what it is" can be hard sometimes and requires deep honesty and personal responsibility. Explore what's painful or doesn't ring true within the "what is" (reality) and work to make it right. Upon examining your "what is" you will become at least a little more aware of it—giving you something to work with. See if you can find a "full-circle awareness" opportunity in your life. One that's happened, to learn from; or one that may be looming, to work with. This Awareness, and acceptance of reality, helps you gain clarity on what next step to take for coming Full Circle, back to your Truth.
Sometimes we become aware of the present moment just by realizing how quickly so many moments have flown by. And sometimes life itself snaps us into the present moment through major events—happy ones and sad ones—like weddings and having babies or illnesses or life-altering accidents. My car accident a few years ago, for example, made me hyperaware of the moments I was losing by staying in a job that I no longer enjoyed. My work used to be fulfilling but somewhere along the way things changed and it was no longer rewarding. Not only did my job not fulfill me, it was draining me, depleting my energy, and I was even getting sick. I was not managing the stress very well and it was killing me. Then the accident nearly did just that. In retrospect, the car accident was a God-send. I am not only alive, but I'm very healthy, and doing work I love!
The accident literally stopped me in my tracks. And it's where I learned the true meaning of present-moment awareness. I became fully aware of each moment—leaving an indelible imprint in my mind of the whole accident as it unfolded. It's true what they say about things like that happening in "slow motion". But a few moments after everything came to a halt, facing southbound from the northbound lanes, in the middle of 4-lane freeway, I sat in the stillness staring at stunned faces of drivers staring back at me. White knuckling their steering wheels, unblinking, in shock over what almost just happened to them, they sat unmoving, fixed in time. It's like I was on stage and they were my audience; mesmerized by my performance. Perhaps in shock that I was staring back, alive and no one was dead. Were they about to applaud? It was the weirdest feeling being stared at like that, in that place. But then, I came to ...realizing I'd just escaped death. Tears came as the weight of it all set in. I'd been spared. I'm not sure what it meant for the guy who hit me, but it was a wake-up call for me. It caused me to pause and reevaluate my life; it snapped me into reality. Thanking my guardian angels, I felt divine love deep in my heart. I'd just experienced a miracle.
As I lay strapped to a back board in the ambulance on the way to Seattle's trauma center, my surroundings became crystal clear. The specks of gray in the EMT's blue eyes, the sound of the pavement beneath the tires, the churning axles, the squeaky chassis just a few feet below my head, the siren of the ambulance, the bumps in the road as we climbed the hill to the ER. The medic checked my vitals and talked with me as I witnessed the calming presence within my heart. Clarity came from deep within as I had the awareness that I would finally need to come into my own—my purpose—if I intended to stick around. I needed to start living my life in accordance with my soul, my Truth. This accident needed to happen. I silently kept thanking God; not for protecting me, but for correcting my course in life.
It's what I was "not" aware of that showed me the accident was no mere accident. It was life correcting itself, correcting me, getting me back in alignment. I was not fully aware of, or accepting the potential consequences of, the fact that "not living" my life—with joy and purpose—was killing me. I knew something was off, but I just kept putting off doing something about it ....one more day, you know.
Paradoxically, nearly losing my life brought me into the present moment where I got a good look at how I was living my life. What I was not aware of—that I was not living in accordance with my soul's purpose—brought me into full awareness that I must get reacquainted with my soul and make some changes. Full-Circle Awareness.
To come "full circle" means to arrive back where you started; that would be my Truth, or Soul, in this case. Full circle awareness begins when you become aware that a circumstance (living in opposition to my Truth) causes a consequence (my accident) and then using the results of the consequence (being jolted into and accepting reality, then taking responsibility) to gain insight—awareness—for how to improve the original circumstance (how I was living, or not living, my life).
I needed that accident to bring me full circle, back to where I started—back in touch with my Soul—because I was choosing to ignore the more subtle signs; illnesses, unhappiness, and general apathy. The trauma forced me to become fully awake—aware—and ready to accept that I'd lost touch with my true essence and needed to figure out how to find my way back home.
It isn't necessary to go through a major event like a car accident to become present. But if we go through life without at least some moment-to-moment awareness—and take personal responsibility, ownership, for the changes needed—these major events will likely do the job for us. Bringing us into the present moment, here, now and fast! It's like Mother Nature correcting the ecosystem of the forest; it's needed for long-term sustainability—and it's inevitable.
To go through life with the blinders on at warp speed, like I was doing, is unnatural. The flowers are there for us to admire, smell, and sometimes pick for our tables. We are meant to smell the freshness of new rain, get caught in it on occasion where we are invited to dance and splash in a puddle or two. We are to daydream as we watch the clouds float by with the changing winds and imagine what it must be like to soar like a bird. When did you last look up at the sky? For me, it had been a while until that day I was strapped to a trauma board.
Try this. Stop, Look, and Listen. What is it that you are doing right now? How does whatever it is that you are doing feel, smell, sound, taste, or look like? Are you inhaling your lunch or have you stopped to enjoy the flavors. Have you considered how that food made it onto your plate? I don't mean you! Who grew, harvested, and shipped the vegetables to the place where you got your food?
The act of awareness is paying attention to your surroundings, listening to your heart, and also accepting what is. I often say, "it is what it is"—meaning, reality. Accepting that "it is what it is" can be hard sometimes and requires deep honesty and personal responsibility. Explore what's painful or doesn't ring true within the "what is" (reality) and work to make it right. Upon examining your "what is" you will become at least a little more aware of it—giving you something to work with. See if you can find a "full-circle awareness" opportunity in your life. One that's happened, to learn from; or one that may be looming, to work with. This Awareness, and acceptance of reality, helps you gain clarity on what next step to take for coming Full Circle, back to your Truth.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Something to Give
What does it mean to give? What is the Gift in Giving?
One of my earliest memories of feeling the impact of someone else's generosity is when I was five years old; I was in first grade.
My teacher, Mrs. Billups, brought a big bag of clothes to school for me. There were dresses, a pair of shiny black shoes, and many other items that I really needed. And then again in second grade, my teacher, Miss Hatton, bought me new pajamas, a robe, and a pair of slippers along with a brand new box of crayons and a coloring book for my upcoming stay at the hospital.
As number eight of nine kids, I wasn't accustomed to having brand new things. And I never imagined I would have my very own crayons and coloring book …let alone "house slippers"! And I loved the softness of my new robe. I felt like a princess all dolled up in my new stuff—even if it was because I had to get my tonsils out!
Throughout my school years there were a few teachers who really made an impression on me through their willingness and choice to give—to give to a child they saw in need. It made me feel special and I dare to consider not having these memories as they are indeed some of my fondest memories of feeling loved.
Not until I became an adult and reflected back did I really begin to understand the power of their choice to give—you see, they didn’t have to, but they did.
I believe lots of people reach out to others and help in a number of ways when they can, but often times people feel that they have nothing to offer, nothing "extra" to give. But, no matter one’s circumstances, we all have something to give. It could be a quiet "random act of kindness" or simply donating clothing or food to a charity. Or it could be through volunteering one’s time, which I believe is one of the most powerful and rewarding methods of giving—both for the recipient as well as for the person giving their time.
For example, many years ago I started working as a volunteer ski instructor for people with disabilities. I chose this organization for a couple of reasons: growing up with a younger sister with profound disabilities, confined to a wheelchair and bed—along with my love for skiing— made this the perfect fit for me. Not only was I quite comfortable around those with disability, but I could get outside and play with them! …something I could never do with my little sister.
For many students, the programs offered through this organization are their only chance to get outside. It is a chance for these people who have some physical or mental challenge to do things they never imagined or gave up hope on long ago. It is a chance for them to gain a sense of independence and know that despite their challenges they are indeed very "able" to get out there and slide on snow just like everybody else!
For instance, I had a student years ago, named Brandon, who had cerebral palsy. He skied with my husband, Bill, also a volunteer ski instructor, and me for a few years. The last year before he and his family moved to the east coast, we asked Brandon, what is your goal for this ski season? He said I want to ski with my family. Brandon’s family would drop him off for his lessons and head out to the mountain for their own skiing and although he would see them out on the mountain he longed to ski "with" them. We worked with him for many weeks and his family would sometimes join us for a run or two. Eventually, though, Brandon began skiing more in control without so much coaching and by the end of the season he was indeed skiing down the hill with his mom, dad, and older brother! …without his instructors! His hard work and determination had paid off!
Another student, Joe, had been hit by a car in his mid-twenties while training for a triathlon and was paralyzed from his waist down. Joe was the perfect candidate for what's called a mono-ski; it looks like chair, of sorts, with a single ski attached on the bottom. He was paired up with my husband so I got to hear about the progress.
Although Joe had remained active since his accident, he was a bit nervous of sliding down a slippery mountain slope in this chair-like contraption! But, through a lot of hard work, frustration, and ton of courage, Joe mastered the mono-ski. To my husband, Joe was another successful student who persevered to do something he didn’t think he could do. Bill, as usual, very honored to be a part of it. But, not until we ran into Joe at a fundraising event for the organization did Bill really understand the impact this experience had on Joe’s life. I stood there and witnessed two grown men exchanging some level of non-dude-like connection; it was as if their souls were touching. It was something I can only name as love. Joe told Bill how the skiing experience changed his life and he couldn’t thank him enough. My husband was quite taken aback with emotion. Feeling the impact he’d had on someone else’s life—doing something he enjoyed. He simply skied with another guy …and helped him learn along the way.
Being a volunteer is a commitment and in some ways requires more dedication than a regular job. But there are so many other ways to give which require less time, are equally important and often life-changing for people.
I believe we are all connected on a soul level—breathing from the same source of energy, called spirit. The spirit in me is the spirit in you. How can we not feel connected!?!
Each of us has our own way of expressing unique talents in this world. Even if there are hundreds or even thousands of other people who do what you do or know what you know, there is no one else who can do it quite like you. And I believe there is someone (on a soul level) out there waiting and hoping to find you, each of us. Once you make yourself available the universe has a way of bringing you in alignment with this person or group of people who need what you have. All you need to do is show up!
Each human is born beautiful, loving, and caring—and each has a natural desire to reach out and help others. For most of us, though, we lose this part of ourselves somewhere along the way in the struggles of life. But, if we can find our way back and remember the power of love through giving it is a way to renew and connect to our souls and the souls others …of someone in need.
So, what is the “gift of giving”? The gift is in knowing you reached out and made a difference in someone else’s life. The gift is all the opportunities to meet new people and hear their stories and experience something that the average everyday life doesn’t offer. The gift is feeling connected at the heart of something, someone. The "gift of giving" is in exchanging this connection with someone else.
So, how can you know the gift of giving? Could it be the simple act of holding the door for someone, giving a smile, or sending your blessings? Or, is it through volunteering?
It doesn’t really matter what you give. What does matter is knowing that you do in fact have something to give …and within the mere giving, lay the gift.
So, what is the gift in giving? You ….are the gift.
Who will open your gift today?
One of my earliest memories of feeling the impact of someone else's generosity is when I was five years old; I was in first grade.
My teacher, Mrs. Billups, brought a big bag of clothes to school for me. There were dresses, a pair of shiny black shoes, and many other items that I really needed. And then again in second grade, my teacher, Miss Hatton, bought me new pajamas, a robe, and a pair of slippers along with a brand new box of crayons and a coloring book for my upcoming stay at the hospital.
As number eight of nine kids, I wasn't accustomed to having brand new things. And I never imagined I would have my very own crayons and coloring book …let alone "house slippers"! And I loved the softness of my new robe. I felt like a princess all dolled up in my new stuff—even if it was because I had to get my tonsils out!
Throughout my school years there were a few teachers who really made an impression on me through their willingness and choice to give—to give to a child they saw in need. It made me feel special and I dare to consider not having these memories as they are indeed some of my fondest memories of feeling loved.
Not until I became an adult and reflected back did I really begin to understand the power of their choice to give—you see, they didn’t have to, but they did.
I believe lots of people reach out to others and help in a number of ways when they can, but often times people feel that they have nothing to offer, nothing "extra" to give. But, no matter one’s circumstances, we all have something to give. It could be a quiet "random act of kindness" or simply donating clothing or food to a charity. Or it could be through volunteering one’s time, which I believe is one of the most powerful and rewarding methods of giving—both for the recipient as well as for the person giving their time.
For example, many years ago I started working as a volunteer ski instructor for people with disabilities. I chose this organization for a couple of reasons: growing up with a younger sister with profound disabilities, confined to a wheelchair and bed—along with my love for skiing— made this the perfect fit for me. Not only was I quite comfortable around those with disability, but I could get outside and play with them! …something I could never do with my little sister.
For many students, the programs offered through this organization are their only chance to get outside. It is a chance for these people who have some physical or mental challenge to do things they never imagined or gave up hope on long ago. It is a chance for them to gain a sense of independence and know that despite their challenges they are indeed very "able" to get out there and slide on snow just like everybody else!
For instance, I had a student years ago, named Brandon, who had cerebral palsy. He skied with my husband, Bill, also a volunteer ski instructor, and me for a few years. The last year before he and his family moved to the east coast, we asked Brandon, what is your goal for this ski season? He said I want to ski with my family. Brandon’s family would drop him off for his lessons and head out to the mountain for their own skiing and although he would see them out on the mountain he longed to ski "with" them. We worked with him for many weeks and his family would sometimes join us for a run or two. Eventually, though, Brandon began skiing more in control without so much coaching and by the end of the season he was indeed skiing down the hill with his mom, dad, and older brother! …without his instructors! His hard work and determination had paid off!
Another student, Joe, had been hit by a car in his mid-twenties while training for a triathlon and was paralyzed from his waist down. Joe was the perfect candidate for what's called a mono-ski; it looks like chair, of sorts, with a single ski attached on the bottom. He was paired up with my husband so I got to hear about the progress.
Although Joe had remained active since his accident, he was a bit nervous of sliding down a slippery mountain slope in this chair-like contraption! But, through a lot of hard work, frustration, and ton of courage, Joe mastered the mono-ski. To my husband, Joe was another successful student who persevered to do something he didn’t think he could do. Bill, as usual, very honored to be a part of it. But, not until we ran into Joe at a fundraising event for the organization did Bill really understand the impact this experience had on Joe’s life. I stood there and witnessed two grown men exchanging some level of non-dude-like connection; it was as if their souls were touching. It was something I can only name as love. Joe told Bill how the skiing experience changed his life and he couldn’t thank him enough. My husband was quite taken aback with emotion. Feeling the impact he’d had on someone else’s life—doing something he enjoyed. He simply skied with another guy …and helped him learn along the way.
Being a volunteer is a commitment and in some ways requires more dedication than a regular job. But there are so many other ways to give which require less time, are equally important and often life-changing for people.
I believe we are all connected on a soul level—breathing from the same source of energy, called spirit. The spirit in me is the spirit in you. How can we not feel connected!?!
Each of us has our own way of expressing unique talents in this world. Even if there are hundreds or even thousands of other people who do what you do or know what you know, there is no one else who can do it quite like you. And I believe there is someone (on a soul level) out there waiting and hoping to find you, each of us. Once you make yourself available the universe has a way of bringing you in alignment with this person or group of people who need what you have. All you need to do is show up!
Each human is born beautiful, loving, and caring—and each has a natural desire to reach out and help others. For most of us, though, we lose this part of ourselves somewhere along the way in the struggles of life. But, if we can find our way back and remember the power of love through giving it is a way to renew and connect to our souls and the souls others …of someone in need.
So, what is the “gift of giving”? The gift is in knowing you reached out and made a difference in someone else’s life. The gift is all the opportunities to meet new people and hear their stories and experience something that the average everyday life doesn’t offer. The gift is feeling connected at the heart of something, someone. The "gift of giving" is in exchanging this connection with someone else.
So, how can you know the gift of giving? Could it be the simple act of holding the door for someone, giving a smile, or sending your blessings? Or, is it through volunteering?
It doesn’t really matter what you give. What does matter is knowing that you do in fact have something to give …and within the mere giving, lay the gift.
So, what is the gift in giving? You ….are the gift.
Who will open your gift today?
Monday, February 21, 2011
"Follow Your Heart" Business Planning
A lot of people ask me, "How did you do it?". Meaning, how did I leave my job to "Follow My Heart" and do the work I love. Their question is somewhat in the context of how I did it emotionally, but usually, how I "actually" did it. They want to know, what actual steps I took to start my own practice. They want to know because, like me, they are interested in doing more meaningful work.
When I first started out, I didn't keep good track of my expenses or give any thought to what the next six months or year might look like. I didn't ask myself too many business-related questions at all, in fact. You might even say, my new business was sort of like therapy! I jumped into it with complete abandon throwing all caution to the wind. Once I found my office space, it was like playing house. I had free reign to make the space look and feel however I wanted---it was mine to transform. I found just the right rug, furniture, lamps, and artwork. I painted the walls a warm yellowish-golden tone---something I wouldn't have the courage to put on my walls at home. (But, I do now!). And without even knowing the name of the final paint winner, I'd settled on a color called "Lucky Duck". Boy, was I. So lucky---so blessed---to have the opportunity to be building a richer and more meaningful work life.
In retrospect, though, I wish I would have paid a little more attention to my expenses. Since I was still working full time in my corporate job I had a good steady income to pay for my part-time fun. I didn't know how much money I was spending and didn't care. My soul was singing and I felt life coming back into step. As fun as it was, I don't recommend this approach!
I've learned a few lessons, like the long-term benefits of having a budget! I am sharing my wisdom and many "lessons learned" with anyone who is interested in benefiting from them. The number one best thing I could have done is to write a simple, even a draft, Business Plan. Taking a little time to get a few important things on paper is like planning for a long road trip. It's a good idea to have a detailed map and a pretty good understanding of where you're headed. A business plan is your map and your destination in one. It can even be designed for a little detour here and there!
On Wednesday, March 9th, I will be teaching my second class on "How To Start Your Own Healing Practice". The first time I offered this class, it was focused more on the inspirational side of things. This time, I've invited my personal business management coach, Leah Jacobs, to co-teach with me. Leah specializes in small business start ups and helped me get clear on the business side of things in my practice. Although, my time playing house was great, I needed to remember it was also a business---Leah brought the two together for me just beautifully.
If you or someone you know is looking for help to start a, or build an existing, healing practice this class will offer some tools that might just take things to the next level. We have designed the class with a focus on how to develop a draft business plan. We will walk through some basic steps as participants work to find answers to write the draft---during the class. It is sort of like a workshop. It will be insightful and full of opportunity to ask questions. We hope to keep Q&A going throughout!
Class will be held at East West Bookshop in Seattle. Follow this link on how to sign up. http://www.eastwestbookshop.com/events/single_event.php?ID=2439
Follow Your Heart! .....joy to you!
When I first started out, I didn't keep good track of my expenses or give any thought to what the next six months or year might look like. I didn't ask myself too many business-related questions at all, in fact. You might even say, my new business was sort of like therapy! I jumped into it with complete abandon throwing all caution to the wind. Once I found my office space, it was like playing house. I had free reign to make the space look and feel however I wanted---it was mine to transform. I found just the right rug, furniture, lamps, and artwork. I painted the walls a warm yellowish-golden tone---something I wouldn't have the courage to put on my walls at home. (But, I do now!). And without even knowing the name of the final paint winner, I'd settled on a color called "Lucky Duck". Boy, was I. So lucky---so blessed---to have the opportunity to be building a richer and more meaningful work life.
In retrospect, though, I wish I would have paid a little more attention to my expenses. Since I was still working full time in my corporate job I had a good steady income to pay for my part-time fun. I didn't know how much money I was spending and didn't care. My soul was singing and I felt life coming back into step. As fun as it was, I don't recommend this approach!
I've learned a few lessons, like the long-term benefits of having a budget! I am sharing my wisdom and many "lessons learned" with anyone who is interested in benefiting from them. The number one best thing I could have done is to write a simple, even a draft, Business Plan. Taking a little time to get a few important things on paper is like planning for a long road trip. It's a good idea to have a detailed map and a pretty good understanding of where you're headed. A business plan is your map and your destination in one. It can even be designed for a little detour here and there!
On Wednesday, March 9th, I will be teaching my second class on "How To Start Your Own Healing Practice". The first time I offered this class, it was focused more on the inspirational side of things. This time, I've invited my personal business management coach, Leah Jacobs, to co-teach with me. Leah specializes in small business start ups and helped me get clear on the business side of things in my practice. Although, my time playing house was great, I needed to remember it was also a business---Leah brought the two together for me just beautifully.
If you or someone you know is looking for help to start a, or build an existing, healing practice this class will offer some tools that might just take things to the next level. We have designed the class with a focus on how to develop a draft business plan. We will walk through some basic steps as participants work to find answers to write the draft---during the class. It is sort of like a workshop. It will be insightful and full of opportunity to ask questions. We hope to keep Q&A going throughout!
Class will be held at East West Bookshop in Seattle. Follow this link on how to sign up. http://www.eastwestbookshop.com/events/single_event.php?ID=2439
Follow Your Heart! .....joy to you!
Saturday, February 19, 2011
In Defense of the M.D.
As my interest in natural healing expands, I am called to attend various events, classes, and workshops. Recently, I attended a workshop about using plant-based remedies for healing—herbal medicine. I picked up some new information, disagreed with some of what was said, and got a little impatient with the victims blaming their doctors for not curing what ailed them. Turns out, it was a hot issue. The idea that all medical doctors are part of the conspiracy—out to take advantage of us—was a common belief with this particular group. The majority believed that they (the MDs) are "in" with the pharmaceutical companies and out to make a profit by selling products or withholding the complete answer to keep us coming back (to put more money on their pockets). I call B.S. on this! Well, perhaps it's true in some cases, but not to the extent that I was hearing.
I understand why some people think this way, but I've had the opposite experience. It's not to say I haven't questioned or felt frustrated by the western-practicing docs—I certainly have! But when I made the decision to actually partner with my doctor, our communication changed—and so did everything in my life. To partner means to get on board as a "team member" and actually participate in the health care plan instead of expecting the doc to have all the answers!
I think a lot of patients become frustrated because they just want someone to fix it, to make it go away and, well, let's face it, doctors are just people doing a job. Most of them do not have the staff or time to take on special case studies to dig into the deeper issues that plague us. I can relate to the frustration though. When we're sick, it's really difficult to muster up the energy to help ourselves. But sometimes help is as simple as asking the right questions and doing a little research on complementary options. For me, I was offered plenty of medications to "make it go away" but, intuitively, I knew that would only bury what ailed me for another day. Living with the burden of having to deal with it some other day only made me feel worse. I declined the make-it-go-away pill and asked my doc for a referral to an alternative doctor—not really even knowing what I was asking for or where to find it. I just knew I needed something different.
This is where I must defend the so called single-minded M.D. who gets a bad rap for not thinking outside the box. It is "because" my doctor trusted me—his partner—that he gave me the referral. Correcting my terminology, saying "we call it complementary medicine" he handed me a piece of paper with a name on it. I didn't care what he called it; I just wanted some help to heal naturally. And I knew I had what it took to heal naturally—the desire and the belief. As I took the referral he said, "I would send my wife to her" along with a few other words about this doctor's credentials. The referral was for an M.D. who practices Integrative Medicine. Although I had heard this term before, I didn't fully understand what it meant. Turns out, this was exactly "what the doctor ordered"—it was the prescription I needed. And better yet, this new doc was also a certified herbalist!
This complementary treatment transformed my life on every level. Integrative medicine is about bringing back—integrating—all the pieces to make us whole again. Integrative Medicine is to integrate mind, body, and spirit. In my case, none of the three aspects were even close to being integrated; in fact, I'd lost complete touch with what had always held me together—my spirit. That allopathic western-practicing-out-to-get-me doctor guided me on where to take the first step, which I believe saved my life. And he didn't do it with drugs. Because he trusted me, as a partner, he gave me an "outside the box" option.
No matter who we turn to for helping us with our health needs, we must get in the front seat—the driver's seat—and steer the treatment plan. The health care provider is someone we hire to provide a service. When doctors have a patient who is also working to find a solution, trust comes into the picture. Our doctors are the experts, yes, but they are also human. They can't have all the answers for all the other humans who have a gazillion different ailments, pre-dispositions, levels of stress, genetics, and so on. It would take a team of doctors—like on that TV show, "House"—to find immediate answers. Sure, we all would love that, but it isn't real! We must not only be ON the team—we must build the team. Like a business, we must take a look at our health and design a plan to maximize efficiency and improve the "Bottom Line"—the bottom line being our health, in this case.
In my previous job, we developed project plans for every single program. Each project plan was developed with three things in mind: budget, schedule, and quality. If we designed a plan to support each of these—equally—our end product, our deliverable, would meet or exceed customer expectations. But if we neglected any of the three, the whole program suffered. Our health is the same way. If we neglect any of the three primary aspects of our being—mind, body, spirit—we fall apart. But, when balanced, we find our Truth—our authentic Self. We find solutions—intuitively—to disruptions that could affect our bottom line, our health. Integration of mind-body-spirit is the cheapest, most efficient, productive, and empowering approach to wellness.
So, in defense of the Medical Doctors out there, they are not the bad guy. They are just part of the team "you" are meant to build to meet all deliverables in your project plan. What are your deliverables? To have unity and balance in every aspect of your life? If so, focusing on mind-body-spirit integration is what you need to do. But, you must partner (be part of the team) if you expect to find complete and lasting healing.
Just as the engineering team at my old job had to deliver the end product on time, within budget, and in compliance with quality standards, we, too, must keep an eye on having a sound mind, strong body, while living in compliance with Spirit, our Soul-Self. Basically, if we aim to meet our primary deliverable—perfect wellness—we must live our Truth.
My health care "project plan" consists of the following: two Medical Doctors (one allopathic and one integrative); acupuncture; herbal medicine; body work, including massage, energy work, cranial sacral; yoga; meditation; and "following my heart" to do the work I love. These things have brought mind-body-spirit back into balance for me. My life has transformed completely over the past several years. It all started with my Medical Doctor—because I partnered with him.
Lastly, if your existing doctor is not cutting it, find a new doctor! There are plenty of great think-outside-the-box docs out there.
I understand why some people think this way, but I've had the opposite experience. It's not to say I haven't questioned or felt frustrated by the western-practicing docs—I certainly have! But when I made the decision to actually partner with my doctor, our communication changed—and so did everything in my life. To partner means to get on board as a "team member" and actually participate in the health care plan instead of expecting the doc to have all the answers!
I think a lot of patients become frustrated because they just want someone to fix it, to make it go away and, well, let's face it, doctors are just people doing a job. Most of them do not have the staff or time to take on special case studies to dig into the deeper issues that plague us. I can relate to the frustration though. When we're sick, it's really difficult to muster up the energy to help ourselves. But sometimes help is as simple as asking the right questions and doing a little research on complementary options. For me, I was offered plenty of medications to "make it go away" but, intuitively, I knew that would only bury what ailed me for another day. Living with the burden of having to deal with it some other day only made me feel worse. I declined the make-it-go-away pill and asked my doc for a referral to an alternative doctor—not really even knowing what I was asking for or where to find it. I just knew I needed something different.
This is where I must defend the so called single-minded M.D. who gets a bad rap for not thinking outside the box. It is "because" my doctor trusted me—his partner—that he gave me the referral. Correcting my terminology, saying "we call it complementary medicine" he handed me a piece of paper with a name on it. I didn't care what he called it; I just wanted some help to heal naturally. And I knew I had what it took to heal naturally—the desire and the belief. As I took the referral he said, "I would send my wife to her" along with a few other words about this doctor's credentials. The referral was for an M.D. who practices Integrative Medicine. Although I had heard this term before, I didn't fully understand what it meant. Turns out, this was exactly "what the doctor ordered"—it was the prescription I needed. And better yet, this new doc was also a certified herbalist!
This complementary treatment transformed my life on every level. Integrative medicine is about bringing back—integrating—all the pieces to make us whole again. Integrative Medicine is to integrate mind, body, and spirit. In my case, none of the three aspects were even close to being integrated; in fact, I'd lost complete touch with what had always held me together—my spirit. That allopathic western-practicing-out-to-get-me doctor guided me on where to take the first step, which I believe saved my life. And he didn't do it with drugs. Because he trusted me, as a partner, he gave me an "outside the box" option.
No matter who we turn to for helping us with our health needs, we must get in the front seat—the driver's seat—and steer the treatment plan. The health care provider is someone we hire to provide a service. When doctors have a patient who is also working to find a solution, trust comes into the picture. Our doctors are the experts, yes, but they are also human. They can't have all the answers for all the other humans who have a gazillion different ailments, pre-dispositions, levels of stress, genetics, and so on. It would take a team of doctors—like on that TV show, "House"—to find immediate answers. Sure, we all would love that, but it isn't real! We must not only be ON the team—we must build the team. Like a business, we must take a look at our health and design a plan to maximize efficiency and improve the "Bottom Line"—the bottom line being our health, in this case.
In my previous job, we developed project plans for every single program. Each project plan was developed with three things in mind: budget, schedule, and quality. If we designed a plan to support each of these—equally—our end product, our deliverable, would meet or exceed customer expectations. But if we neglected any of the three, the whole program suffered. Our health is the same way. If we neglect any of the three primary aspects of our being—mind, body, spirit—we fall apart. But, when balanced, we find our Truth—our authentic Self. We find solutions—intuitively—to disruptions that could affect our bottom line, our health. Integration of mind-body-spirit is the cheapest, most efficient, productive, and empowering approach to wellness.
So, in defense of the Medical Doctors out there, they are not the bad guy. They are just part of the team "you" are meant to build to meet all deliverables in your project plan. What are your deliverables? To have unity and balance in every aspect of your life? If so, focusing on mind-body-spirit integration is what you need to do. But, you must partner (be part of the team) if you expect to find complete and lasting healing.
Just as the engineering team at my old job had to deliver the end product on time, within budget, and in compliance with quality standards, we, too, must keep an eye on having a sound mind, strong body, while living in compliance with Spirit, our Soul-Self. Basically, if we aim to meet our primary deliverable—perfect wellness—we must live our Truth.
My health care "project plan" consists of the following: two Medical Doctors (one allopathic and one integrative); acupuncture; herbal medicine; body work, including massage, energy work, cranial sacral; yoga; meditation; and "following my heart" to do the work I love. These things have brought mind-body-spirit back into balance for me. My life has transformed completely over the past several years. It all started with my Medical Doctor—because I partnered with him.
Lastly, if your existing doctor is not cutting it, find a new doctor! There are plenty of great think-outside-the-box docs out there.
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